People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness. They always have the power to think, and to think about their thinking, and to think about thinking about their thinking, which the goddamn dolphin, as far as we know, can't do. Therefore they have much greater ability to change themselves than any other animal has.
- Albert Ellis
More Quotes By Albert Ellis
People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.
You have considerable power to construct self-helping thoughts, feelings and actions as well as to construct self-defeating behaviors.... Thinking rationally is often different from “positive thinking,” in that it is a realistic assessment of the situation,... If you would stop, really stop, damning yourself, others, and unkind conditions, you would find it almost impossible... If human emotions largely result from thinking, then one may appreciably control one’s feelings by controlling one’s thoughts... To err is human; to forgive people and yourself for poor behavior is to be sensible and realistic.
If people stopped looking on their emotions as ethereal, almost inhuman processes, and realistically viewed them as being... The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own.... There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And... Reality is not so much what happens to us; rather, it is how we think about those events... You mainly feel the way you think.
The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own.
By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your... Life is indeed difficult, partly because of the real difficulties we must overcome in order to survive, and... Stop shoulding on yourself
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